Bi curious straight
Signs You Might Be A Minuscule Bi-Curious & What To Do About It
I enjoy big butts, and I can not lie! When Sir Mix-a-Lot made that song, he made it just for me. As a self-identifying heterosexual chick over the years, I have often wondered if my love for phat asses was normal. Maybe my crush with phat asses stems from the fact that I was not blessed to be fit to become a card-carrying member of the big-ass brigade. My ass is flat. It doesn’t jiggle or rebound. It’s just there.
So, because of my lack thereof, I've learned to appreciate others. It’s something about the way a phat ass moves in a dress or how the cheeks dance around in a circle when twerking that makes me want to caress it. I often joke with my friends that I turn “gay” every time a phat ass walks past.
Surely I am not the only person who has wondered whether they were no longer "straight" because of their attraction to someone of the same gender. Sexuality is not black-and-white. It’s very fluid. While some of us are fortunate enough to include it all figured out. Most of us, however, hold had q
People are all too immediate to pigeonhole bisexual and pansexual guys. Dating someone femme-presenting? You’re straight. Digital dating someone on the masculine side? Secretly gay and not ready to disclose it. Dating a agender person who presents androgynously? Also gay, probably.
The thing is, bi and pan (short for “pansexual”) guys exist – I realize , because I am one. These fundamental misconceptions swirl around mainstream gay scenes and straight spaces alike. I once had a threesome with two lgbtq+ German guys and afterwards one playfully referred to me as a “baby queer” – erm, no, I’m just as gender non-conforming as you mate; did you not notice when I was sucking your dick?
But let’s say you’re a guy who’s realised that, like me, you might not be totally straight – but you’ve only ever been in heterosexual relationships. You’re keen to explore, but you’re also anxious about the whole thing. Does that sound like you? In honour of Bisexuality Visibility Week, here are some pointers to help you navigate the terrain. Not you? Maybe still read on, so you can get our sexuality a petite better.
So you&#;v
Bi-curious and going for it
I am a year-old single straight man. Over the past year, I have become very close friends with a gay man nearby to my age. We possess a blast hanging out, and I value our friendship. Four months ago, he told me that he had developed love-related feelings for me and said he needed a little room to save our friendship. For a couple of months, we saw each other only with mutual friends. Then we started hanging out again. It’s been great, and he seems very comfortable with me again. The thing is, I am now experiencing a sexual attraction to him. I have never been with a man and I am very attracted to women, but it doesn’t bother me that I suddenly feel this way.
I have been thinking about asking him if he wants to have a sexual exposure with me. I think he would go for it. A long-term romantic relationship with him does not interest me, but I do love him as a friend and don’t desire to risk losing that. Is it possible this could be just a one-time thing that brings us closer as friends, or is it more likely to ruin our friendship? He is the only guy I have
What Does It Mean to Be Bi-Curious?
“If you’re coming from a heterosexual background and are interested in exploring similar-gender attraction, I recommend learning more about both LGBTQ+ culture in general and bisexuality specifically,” says Ochs.
Good resources for this include:
If you’ve already been a part of the Queer community — meaning, previously have or currently carry out identify as lesbian, homosexual, pansexual, or queer — Ochs recommends spending some time better understanding the role bisexuals have played in LGBTQ+ rights movement, as well as biphobia within the LGBTQ+ group.
For this, check out:
Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people feel the optimal they can in their bodies. In addition to Healthline, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she c
Bi-curious and going for it
I am a year-old single straight man. Over the past year, I have become very close friends with a gay man nearby to my age. We possess a blast hanging out, and I value our friendship. Four months ago, he told me that he had developed love-related feelings for me and said he needed a little room to save our friendship. For a couple of months, we saw each other only with mutual friends. Then we started hanging out again. It’s been great, and he seems very comfortable with me again. The thing is, I am now experiencing a sexual attraction to him. I have never been with a man and I am very attracted to women, but it doesn’t bother me that I suddenly feel this way.
I have been thinking about asking him if he wants to have a sexual exposure with me. I think he would go for it. A long-term romantic relationship with him does not interest me, but I do love him as a friend and don’t desire to risk losing that. Is it possible this could be just a one-time thing that brings us closer as friends, or is it more likely to ruin our friendship? He is the only guy I have
What Does It Mean to Be Bi-Curious?
“If you’re coming from a heterosexual background and are interested in exploring similar-gender attraction, I recommend learning more about both LGBTQ+ culture in general and bisexuality specifically,” says Ochs.
Good resources for this include:
If you’ve already been a part of the Queer community — meaning, previously have or currently carry out identify as lesbian, homosexual, pansexual, or queer — Ochs recommends spending some time better understanding the role bisexuals have played in LGBTQ+ rights movement, as well as biphobia within the LGBTQ+ group.
For this, check out:
Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people feel the optimal they can in their bodies. In addition to Healthline, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she c