Why am i single gay
March 02,
The Epidemic of
Gay LonelinessBy Michael Hobbes
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I used to find so excited when the meth was all gone.
This is my friend Jeremy.
When you have it, he says, you have to keep using it. When it&#x;s gone, it&#x;s like, &#x;Oh great, I can go back to my life now.&#x; I would stay up all weekend and go to these sex parties and then feel like shit until Wednesday. About two years ago I switched to cocaine because I could work the next day.
Jeremy is telling me this from a hospital bed, six stories above Seattle. He won&#x;t tell me the accurate circumstances of the overdose, only that a stranger called an ambulance and he woke up here.
Jeremy is not the ally I was expecting to own this conversation with. Until a few weeks ago, I had no idea he used anything heavier than martinis. He is trim, intelligent, gluten-free, the considerate of guy who wears a work shirt no matter what day of the week it is. The first time we met, three years ago, he asked me if I knew a good place to complete CrossFit. Today, when I demand him how the hospital&#x;s been so far,
5 Tips to Overcome Your Loneliness as a Gay Man
Updated April 18,
by Clinton Power, psychotherapist and Gay Therapy Center guest blogger
Unfortunately, struggling with feelings of loneliness and isolation is usual in the lgbtq+ community despite the focus on passion and relationships. Sometimes you might effort with making connections at all, and other times you may feel “alone in a crowded room” because it’s so hard to forge true connections.
Let’s explore how you can constructively deal with feelings of loneliness and distribute a life you’re excited to live!
Why do gay men get lonely?
Loneliness is, in some ways, part of the gay experience. The prevalence of loneliness was significantly higher among adults who identified as homosexual (%). Since everyone is assumed to be heterosexual, we all start out in the closet. The stress of not being out is emotional more than rational, but it takes its toll. Even before you came out to yourself, on some level you might have recognizable you couldn’t fulfill expectations of a heterosexual life. You may have grown up feeling alternative and separated fro
Iwasin a relationship for the majority of my twenties. When it was finally over, I spent about a good two years getting to know myself as a something year old, newly single male. I did some excellent self-reflective work in those years, but I didn't prepare myself for navigating the dating world. Why didn't anyone warn me?
Well, here I am at 30, and still dating. What no one tells you is that turning 30 does not come with a token package including an astonishing man and a hope promotion. In fact, I would argue that it comes with an indescribable sobering feeling that devote may be even harder to acquire. This realization has resulted in my sudden appreciation for a daily glass of red wine.
During these past rare months, I have kissed quite a few frogs. I have realized that with my personal development, came this sense of awareness that will simply not allow me to partner with just anyone. Suddenly, the idea of settling has been replaced with the art of compromise, which entails knowledge my needs vs. my wants. Let's face it; we don't have the time to settle for foolishness the way we ma
10 Reasons You&#;re Still a Single Gay Man
After operational for more than a decade as a queer therapist with hundreds of single gay men who are desperate for a relationship, I have often caught myself wondering &#;why is this man single?&#;
You see, many of the gay men I&#;ve worked with are charming, well-educated, kind, caring, motivated in their careers, take look after of their health, acquire networks of friends, are outgoing and gregarious, include a good sense of humour, and generally like life and people.
Now, I&#;m not saying every queer man has all these characteristics, but many of the ones I&#;ve met in my clinical rehearse have at least a few of these and many more than a few. Which begs the question, if so many gay men are fantastic &#;catches&#;, what&#;s getting in the way of them finding a long-term relationship?
While there can be many reasons why this might be so, I&#;ve boiled this down to some common themes I&#;ve seen in my own therapy practice.
1. You fear intimacy
Many gay men fear passionate closeness or intimacy with another man. A dread of intimacy is often about not wa